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How to Write Your Wedding Thank You Notes

Tips and AdviceEllieComment

Planning a wedding is time consuming and exhausting, and after the madness of the big day… you still have a bit of work left ahead of you! Writing thank you notes for your wedding gifts isn’t too terrible considering that you get loads of gifts in the process, but it is important to plan how to tackle the task.

When to Write
Many guests will send gifts before the wedding. In this case, you should write a thank you note to the sender within two weeks. Yes, the months and weeks leading up to your wedding are already crazy busy, but you’ll be glad you got these done ahead of time (and two weeks is what etiquette dictates). For gifts that are received after the wedding, you should send a thank you note within three months of receipt. While guests may have up to a year to give a wedding gift, you do not have that long to write a thank you note (contrary to popular belief)!

To Whom Are You Writing?
Obviously, guests who have sent a gift are a must. Additionally, if you had a wedding coordinator or any other vendors that were particularly great, it is a nice gesture to thank them for their work. You’ll want to thank your attendants, or any other friends and family who helped pull the big day together. Don’t forget about those who hosted out-of-town guests, or bridal showers. Although it may seem oddly formal, if your parents paid for the wedding, write them a thank you note for all they did to make the day possible. Finally, some people will choose to write thank you notes to all of their guests, regardless of whether or not they gave a gift, simply thanking them for attending the wedding.

Make a List
Create an excel sheet with the names for everyone who will be receiving a thank you card (your guest list is a good place to start), add a column for their address, a column for a description of the gift they sent, and another column for whether you have written a thank you card. Keeping everything in one place will insure that no one falls through the cracks!

Get the Materials
Since thank you notes should be handwritten, stock up on printed thank you cards or stationery shortly after your engagement, as many people send gifts prior to the wedding. Stay away from stationery or cards with your married monogram or initials on it, since those symbols should only be used after the wedding. Put all of your materials in a specified area of your home and clear an area to write. Having a dedicated, clean space will motivate you to write notes and maximize your time!

Break Up The Work
Instead of devoting an an entire weekend to the task, set aside 30 minutes each night to write a few notes. Beyond breaking up the time, break up the bulk between your partner and yourself. Whether you want to split the number evenly down the middle or each tackle the friends and family you know best (or better yet, the opposite), it should be a shared endeavor!

What to Write
Thank you notes for wedding gifts are much less formal than wedding invitations and have plenty of room for personal touches. Begin by addressing the recipient “Dear ____” and then their first name or a formal title depending on your relationship.

Firstly, thank them for their gift and be very specific. For example, “Thank you so much for the beautiful engraved picture frame. We can’t wait to fill it with one of the pictures from the big day.”

If the gift was money, don’t mention the specific amount, instead use an adjective such as “generous” or “thoughtful.” Explain how you plan to use the money. For example, “You’ve brought us one step closer to buying our first car together!”

If the gift was a group gift, write a separate note to each person but mention the group aspect. For example, “Thank you so much for the amazing grill. We are so lucky to have the thoughtful friends that we do.”

A good rule of thumb is to write at least 3 sentences about the gift itself.

Secondly, thank them for their presence at your wedding.

For example, “We loved seeing you at the wedding and it meant so much to have such an old friend there.”

Mention the next time you hope to see them and, if possible, tie in the gift.

For example, “I hope you can come by soon for a cookout on the new grill!”

Thank the giver for thinking of you during such an exciting time.

For example, “It is so kind of you to think of us during such a special time in our life.”

Finally, sign both names even if one person wrote the note. First names will do!

If Time Runs Out
If the allotted three months have passed and you still haven’t written a note, don’t despair! Life happens. Just make sure that you do send one. Better late than never.

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10 wedding invitation mistakes to avoid

Tips and AdviceEllieComment

Wedding mishaps are pretty much unavoidable. But it’s better if your mishap is something your guests will easily overlook, rather than misspelling your mother-in-law’s name (yes, we’ve seen it all!). Here are 10 wedding invitation mistakes to avoid:

1. Not Leaving Enough Time
Pull out your calendar, count 8 weeks back from your wedding date, and you’ll have the ideal date (with wiggle room) to drop your wedding invitations in the mail. But keep in mind your invitations need to be chosen or designed, edited, printed, and shipped first! To be safe, subtract another 1 week for shipping, 2-5 weeks for printing (flat printing being the fastest, a foil stamped suite with ribbons/liners/hang tags/wax seals being the slowest), and another 1-3 months for proofs and edits (a Collection design being the fastest, Custom designs the slowest). TL;DR: make sure you start thinking about your invitations at least 4-6 months before your wedding date. For destination weddings, get started 6-9 months in advance.

2. Not Ordering Enough Invitations/Envelopes
Don’t forget that rush-ordering 10 extra invitations at the last minute is going to cost way more than ordering a few extra up front. I suggest ordering at least 10-15 extra invitation suites. You’ll want a few for perfect-looking keepsakes that haven’t been through the mail. You’ll also want some for last minute guest additions, guests who moved but forgot to mention it, or — knock on wood — postal service mishaps. (Etiquette tip: even if you know in advance that a certain guest can’t make it, you should send them an invitation anyway, as a courtesy. If you’re sending save the dates, each person who received a save the date should also receive an invitation.) As for envelopes, if you are addressing them yourself or having a calligrapher address them, extras will be required. We include 10% extras with all unaddressed envelope orders, but calligraphers may need as much as 20% extra.

3. Typos
Triple-check, then have several other people triple-check … typos can be pricey to fix once everything is printed!

4. Not Ordering Samples
There’s a huge variety in price for wedding invitations, and there’s a reason, too. Purchase a sample first so you can see the paper and printing before placing your order.

5. Purchasing Stamps Ahead of Time
Unless your stationer has weighed a sample that is assembled exactly like the one you’ll be sending, do not purchase stamps ahead of time. Instead, once your invitations are completed, take one to the post office to confirm the rate. An invitation might weigh enough for just a forever stamp, but add a little ribbon and suddenly you have a thicker envelope that requires extra postage (even though its weight may still be ok!). If you must order stamps in advance, it’s better to spend a little extra on postage than to have your invitations returned for insufficient funds.

6. Forgetting to stamp the RSVP envelope
Don’t forget! A self-addressed, stamped envelope for your reply card (or a stamp for your reply postcard) is a must.

7. Late RSVP Date
You’ll want to hear from your guests one month before your wedding date (or even farther out if you’re having a destination wedding). That’s because you need to allow time to follow up with unresponsive guests and give your caterer a head count (and maybe guest menu selections, too), and perhaps order escort cards and/or a seating chart.

8. Waiting Too Long To Book A Calligrapher
Calligraphers book well in advance, and may need weeks to address all of your envelopes. Make sure you reach out to calligraphers at the same time you start shopping for your invitations.

9. Mentioning that Kids Aren’t Invited
I know, you really don’t want kids at your wedding. But guests know that if their kids weren’t mentioned on the envelope, they weren’t invited. If you’re still nervous about it, consider including a “number attending: ___” line on your reply cards, so you can politely follow up if the attendance number is higher than it should be. You can also mention on your website that you're happy to help connect guests with babysitters.

10. Mentioning Your Wedding Registry
Remember that your invitations (and all enclosure cards within) are for inviting your guests, not asking for a gift! Your wedding website is the perfect place to list registry information, and including the url on an enclosure card is perfectly acceptable. If you don’t plan to have a wedding website, word of mouth did the trick for generations!

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